Grieving is a process, and there are no set rules. There is no set schedule or time limit. It takes as long as it takes. The most important part is the LESSON.
I believe going through the process of grief is a sacred experience. It is a lesson of immense value to our soul. While we are in Spirit, we are surrounded by very powerful unconditional love. There is no fear or sadness in Spirit. There are no deadlines or stress, no physical limitations, no pain, and no illness. No sense of loss or separation. While we exist in Spirit, we are fully encompassed in powerful Unconditional Love.
Souls incarnate specifically to learn lessons. The more painful and challenging the experience we go through, the more powerful the soul lesson we have the opportunity to learn. Learning occurs for BOTH souls when there is an agreement for one soul to depart early. Death is not just a one sided experience, leaving the survivor to figure out how to navigate life without the physical support of the one who passed on. The Soul that transitioned also learns through the experience. Sorrow on the side of the survivor can actually weigh down the soul of the one who transitioned.
It takes much energy for a soul to leave, and it takes much energy for the survivor to release that soul. It isn’t easy for either party, which is why (I believe) we make soul agreements with those we love the most to help us learn these very powerful lessons. Always remember that these lessons come from a place of LOVE; a place of immense unconditional LOVE. Our loved one loved us enough on a soul level to help us learn a powerful soul lesson (leading to soul growth and advancement) by leaving us.
That is a tough concept. Our loved one loved us enough to LEAVE.
A year ago I lost my soul mate. She was a beautiful mare, often misunderstood by others. We built a relationship on trust and together we both healed. We had a soul connection here on Earth. She was my best friend and confidante. She was my companion. When she had to transition, I was DEVASTATED. I am definitely not the same person now that I was a year ago before she ‘left.’ On a soul level I am very happy for that---as her death was not in vain. She loved me enough to teach me about loss, and I loved her enough to release her so her soul could go on. On a physical level, I miss hugging her strong neck, smelling her sweet smell, and hearing her soft warm nickers. I have an emptiness without her here.
Soul growth is sacred. Grieving is sacred, as it leads to soul growth. Learning to pick up the pieces of ‘you’ and putting them back together in some sort of (albeit different) order and moving forward is a sacred experience. My mare loved me enough to give me the ENORMOUS gift of soul growth. I still miss her every day, and some days are more difficult than others.
I visit her grave often and talk to her all the time. I KNOW that we will be reunited when it’s my turn to transition back to Spirit. I have no doubts that she will be waiting for me at the Rainbow Bridge. And that gives me strength to keep living today.